From Jon Armstrong, on his separation:
I’ve also made an effort to be positive despite the deep, deep pain that I feel every day. It’s difficult to be told that you did it wrong for years and take a look back and feel the deep regret that if only you’d known you were doing it wrong, you could have made changes and done the work that would have fixed the wrongness. How does one handle this gracefully? I don’t know. I’m trying.
I am way past all of this, so I hope y'all will forgive me for bringing up my divorce again. It's just, this struck something in me.. kind of like a string on a guitar that keeps vibrating long after it was struck. This is exactly how I felt for a very long time and never managed to put it into words.